Do you ever have those days/moments that you feel like no matter how hard you work, no matter how hard you try, no matter how good your intentions are it just doesn't seem to matter? That about sums up the year of 2010 and the first part of 2011.
Since my nieces moved out we received nothing but negative from them, my sister and ex brother in law. It makes you question why we went through all we did in order to have things turn out that way. How were we the bad guys and their parents had hay-lows on. Had they forgotten all that had happened? There were so many hateful things said I couldn't help but second guess if I had made a huge mistake by taking in the girls. Much later I would realize I hadn't but at the time I couldn't help but feel hurt betrayed and used.
While still having the emotion of everything that happened with my nieces draw out from the end of 2010 into 2011 I also hit another bump in the road.
I worked at a place called Feature Films for Families that by this point had broken off and also had a company called CallAssistant. I had worked for this company for 9 1/2 years. I started out as an agent and worked my way up from Agent Lead, Manager, Senior Manager to finally becoming Branch Manager. I though the 10+ hr days being on call from start of shift at 5:30 am to end of shift at 10:00pm had finally paid off. I was where I wanted to be and had worked so hard to be for years. I had the potion I had wanted and worked so hard for, right?
Then it happened. Something I had seen happen over and over but this time to me. I was asked to train "the new guy". Not a big deal unless you work for the company I did. You don't train someone new to do what you do unless.... Well I pushed the thought out of my mind and did what I was told. Eventually I moved to the office down the road and started running it and Jason(the new Guy) ran the old office
One day the president of the company asked if he could meet with me. This seemed to be nothing out of the ordinary because I talked to him often. He started the meeting by thanking me for everything I had done. How thanked me for how hard I had worked on one of our biggest campaigns. He said he knew he had put me in a tough situation and I handled it well.... With that said he was going to be putting Jason in charge of everything and I could go back to being a Senior Manager of our biggest clients... I tried to fight back the tears. I asked what I did wrong and was told I did nothing wrong this was just always the plan. ALWAYS THE PLAN what does that mean? Who's plan? Since when was this plan created. Why could I not catch a break. Hadn't I been through enough the last year.
We shared some not so pleasant exchanges, professional but defiantly letting each other know how we felt. I asked for some time off which was like pulling teeth. I sat through a meeting where they announced Jason would be taking over all campaigns and that I was on board with it. Right after the meeting I left.
I don't remember how much time I took of but I decided I was going to quit. The questions kept coming up... What had I done wrong? Why wasn't I given a real reason? Why did I ignore all the signs? Why had I invested so much time into this company. How did I let this job make me miss out on so much time with my family?
We all have blessings in disguise. This by far may have been one of my biggest. I ended up not quitting because a friend of mine convinced me to stay and work part time.
I don't think I realized how much I had missed out on. How did I let this job take up so much of my time. How did my kids get so big. Its like all at once I was looking back at my life seeing how much time had past and standing there in disbelief. I had worked so hard to make sure my kids and my family had what I thought they needed that I had forgotten what they needed most, what I needed most. I lost time that I could never get back. I was determined to find out who I was and who I wanted to be.
Since my nieces moved out we received nothing but negative from them, my sister and ex brother in law. It makes you question why we went through all we did in order to have things turn out that way. How were we the bad guys and their parents had hay-lows on. Had they forgotten all that had happened? There were so many hateful things said I couldn't help but second guess if I had made a huge mistake by taking in the girls. Much later I would realize I hadn't but at the time I couldn't help but feel hurt betrayed and used.
While still having the emotion of everything that happened with my nieces draw out from the end of 2010 into 2011 I also hit another bump in the road.
I worked at a place called Feature Films for Families that by this point had broken off and also had a company called CallAssistant. I had worked for this company for 9 1/2 years. I started out as an agent and worked my way up from Agent Lead, Manager, Senior Manager to finally becoming Branch Manager. I though the 10+ hr days being on call from start of shift at 5:30 am to end of shift at 10:00pm had finally paid off. I was where I wanted to be and had worked so hard to be for years. I had the potion I had wanted and worked so hard for, right?
Then it happened. Something I had seen happen over and over but this time to me. I was asked to train "the new guy". Not a big deal unless you work for the company I did. You don't train someone new to do what you do unless.... Well I pushed the thought out of my mind and did what I was told. Eventually I moved to the office down the road and started running it and Jason(the new Guy) ran the old office
One day the president of the company asked if he could meet with me. This seemed to be nothing out of the ordinary because I talked to him often. He started the meeting by thanking me for everything I had done. How thanked me for how hard I had worked on one of our biggest campaigns. He said he knew he had put me in a tough situation and I handled it well.... With that said he was going to be putting Jason in charge of everything and I could go back to being a Senior Manager of our biggest clients... I tried to fight back the tears. I asked what I did wrong and was told I did nothing wrong this was just always the plan. ALWAYS THE PLAN what does that mean? Who's plan? Since when was this plan created. Why could I not catch a break. Hadn't I been through enough the last year.
We shared some not so pleasant exchanges, professional but defiantly letting each other know how we felt. I asked for some time off which was like pulling teeth. I sat through a meeting where they announced Jason would be taking over all campaigns and that I was on board with it. Right after the meeting I left.
I don't remember how much time I took of but I decided I was going to quit. The questions kept coming up... What had I done wrong? Why wasn't I given a real reason? Why did I ignore all the signs? Why had I invested so much time into this company. How did I let this job make me miss out on so much time with my family?
We all have blessings in disguise. This by far may have been one of my biggest. I ended up not quitting because a friend of mine convinced me to stay and work part time.
I don't think I realized how much I had missed out on. How did I let this job take up so much of my time. How did my kids get so big. Its like all at once I was looking back at my life seeing how much time had past and standing there in disbelief. I had worked so hard to make sure my kids and my family had what I thought they needed that I had forgotten what they needed most, what I needed most. I lost time that I could never get back. I was determined to find out who I was and who I wanted to be.
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